Ooh baby, I like it rough

August 10th, 2008 by ClickHereForAGoodTime | Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »

Mari asks:

I met a guy online (and then in person) who I hit it off with almost immediately. We both get off on talking dirty and rough sex, but I think I’m more into it in real life than he is. He says he just needs time to adjust to the situation and that he wants to give me what I want (which is cool, because I want to give him what he wants). Should I really believe him when he says he can get used to rough sex? Isn’t that more of a personal preference, a “You dig it or you don’t” type of thing? I’ve had bad experiences with this before, and I’m wondering if maybe I should just keep my rough sex fetish under wraps from now on.

Marvin: I think it’s going to take a little while before you two can get through an insane hair pulling, ass slapping rough sex session as intense as what you’d had online. The nature of the internet makes it a lot easier to be who you are because there’s a certain anonymity there. You don’t have to look at the person you’re saying the things to, you just have to say them. It’s a totally artificial environment and when you go from that artificial environment and make it a real situation then it may not transfer over entirely. Think of an incident where you may have had to tell someone something difficult where you just wrote them an email or a letter. It’s just easier to get a point across through text, especially when there is less pressure.

You don’t mention whether or not this guy has had this sort of rough sex with anyone he’s dated or if you’re the first one. Obviously if he’d done it with a girl before you it would be easier for him to slip back into that role. If he has never explored this part of his sexuality, he may still feel some anxiety about it for whatever reason. Whether he’s a dominant or submissive is irrelevant, it has a lot to do with social conditioning and societal norms. Typically men don’t dress up as slaves and get their asses beat by women, and a lot of time it’s frowned upon to hold a lady friend down and fuck her unmercifully. Is it hot? Depends who you talk to.

At the end of the day, we don’t know right off the bat what kind of person we are. We don’t grow up as kids knowing we like anal sex or 69 (most of us don’t know anyway). The only way to find out what makes us tick sexually is by experimenting and trying new things. I don’t think that whether someone likes rough sex or not is a simple boolean answer. It can’t be answered by yes or no. You have to be in the mood for rough sex the same way you need to be in the mood for anything.

My advice to you is to take it slow. It’s obvious he gets off on rough sex, or at least talking about it. It’ll take baby steps though before you get to the point in real life that you were online. Incorporate one or two new things every time you have sex and before you know it he’ll be on his knees with a ball gag and you’ll be flogging his ass with a vengeance. If that’s what you’re into.

You can’t stand behind a bad experience as a reason to give up. There will be so many more bad experiences in everything. Imagine if the first time you fell you gave up on walking. Just as you did then, you must do now. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back in there.

Fuck til you drop!

-Marvin

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One Flew Over the Cuckold’s Nest

August 5th, 2008 by ClickHereForAGoodTime | Posted in Anal Sex, Approaching, Cheating, Confront, Cuckold, Infidelity, Love, Lust, Marriage, Men, Sex, Temptation, Trust, Women | No Comments »

Ladies and gentlemen, today is my birthday. I am happy. And because I’m so happy I’ve decided to be nice and reply to some boneheads whose questions I didn’t want to answer. But since I’m feeling nice…

Jeff asks:

Is there a way to find out if a person has had anal sex?

Marvin says: Interesting question Jeff. I’m glad you sent me your question because I recently came across an article in the New England Journal of Health that says there IS in fact a way to find out if a person has had anal sex. It’s a revolutionary new method that, although complicated, anyone can put into effect. It’s simple my friend. The best way to find out if a person has had anal sex is…ask them. Yeah, that’s right. Ask that fucker!

What business is it of yours to find out if someone has had anal sex? If you have the right to know, you’ll know sooner or later. If you’re just scoping out chicks at the mall and thinking to yourself…”She’s hot…I wonder if she does anal?” then you’re shit out of luck buddy because the only surefire way to know if someone’s engaged in anal intercourse is asking them. Hey theres a concept! Unfortunately, even if you ask them…they could be lying. What the fuck does it matter though, you shouldn’t be asking. It’s not polite.

Other ways to tell if a person has done anal:

• People complain of the smell
• They walk sideways when they walk
• They contort their bodies to sit down
• They constantly say “oww…anal sure does hurt”
• They’re Kim Kardashian

Brian asks:

I want to share my wife with different guys , but she is reluctant to have sex with anyone else. Is there something wrong with me ?

Marvin says: Brian, yes there is something wrong with you. By normal societal standards anyhow. This type of thing is considered perverted or just wrong in most ways. Although I understand that some men feel the need to explore a cuckold relationship (one in which the wife sleeps with other men) most people don’t. I mean, look at Hollywood, it’s always boy meets girl, boy falls in love, boy marries girl. Now, there hasn’t been a movie yet that says boy marries girl then makes her fuck other men. Doesn’t mean it isn’t possible though.

There may be a way to get your wife to be more open to the idea of sharing her but, in all honesty, I wouldn’t know what that would be. It’s possible that no matter what you say to her she’ll never want to sleep with another man. The good thing is, you’ve brought the idea into her mind and whereas before it may never have crossed her mind, it’s now in there to marinate. You never know, one day she may meet the right guy and want to sleep with him. There’s also that possibility that it’ll never be brought up again. You must be prepared for the worst but hope for the best. Good luck.

-Marvin

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Screamin’ Insecurities:

July 28th, 2008 by Cat | Posted in Boyfriend, Break, Breakup, Bros Before Ho's, Cheating, Confront, Forgiveness, Friend, Love, Lust, Teenager | No Comments »

Chip asks:
I rarely have attraction and chemistry with a woman. I met a great woman who said the same. We had a great time…and then I acted like a “typical” guy…and even tossed in bit of insecurity and neediness. So, tell me, once a woman is truned off…is it gone for good? Or…do I leave it alone for a month or two and give her a call? Total bummer…we got along great…but I messed it up. Advice??

Cat & Marvin agree: Well, I don’t think it’s a lost cause. Women are often willing to talk something out and forgive past transgressions (within reason). Talk to her. If you guys really connected, it’s likely that she’ll be able to forgive your “typical guy” behavior. Will she forget it immediately? Probably not. She might bring it up. Be prepared for that. If you can’t handle the idea of that happening, maybe you need to move on. If you sincerely apologize for your previous behavior (perhaps telling her a bit of your back-story and how it contributed to your behavior)and she refuses to associate with you anymore, then that’s that (unfortunately). Talk to her. Maybe send her an e-mail. It’s worth a try. Worst case scenario: you’re where you are right now.

Marty asks:

My girlfriend took my virginity but she lost hers b4 she met me, she lost it to a guy i hate, i cant get over it, it drives me crazy, i think about it constantly and i feel cheated or something what do i do? dont tell me to forgive and forget it wont work

Cat & Marvin agree: I understand why you’re upset. It’s hard to accept when significant others have done things in the past that we don’t agree with. However, the key word in that sentence is “past.” Your girlfriend cannot change who she lost her virginity to anymore than you can. Does your girlfriend still sleep with this guy? I don’t think so. She sleeps with you. You’re the one she wants to be with. Think about that. Remember that. However, if after reflecting a bit on what I wrote, you still cannot accept that your girlfriend was sexually involved with a guy you dislike, then please move on. Do not stay in a relationship that is “driving you crazy.” It’s unhealthy for everyone involved.

-Marvin & Cat

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